Money is another big issue that pops up every January. People always say they are going to make more money in the new year or save more or spend more wisely. But the reality is that money is tied directly to your flow. If you have blockages money will only accelerate those blockages (as in the lottery examples I mentioned in a previous post).
Again, money is neutral, so whatever problems you have with have nothing to do with making a good salary or good investments. I used to be afraid of money since that is how I was raised. My parents were some of the worst money managers I have known and they used money as a form of control. They also laid tremendous guilt on me for spending money on anything they considered extravagant, including eating out. Now, as a teenager in New Hampshire where the only place to hang out was a restaurant this was incredibly frustrating.
As I grew older money issues would always plague me, even when I had money. This was all due to insecurity and other issues from my childhood. So I would do the “logical” thing and start denying myself things in a futile attempt to deal with the money issue. But the more I denied myself things, the worse things got. My desire to ‘be frugal’ simply wasn’t working.
Then I started following my flow. I didn’t worry about money and found my own ‘saturation’ level – what I knew I liked to spend money on and what I didn’t. Ends up I really didn’t need that much disposable income to be happy, and that accumulating stuff actually annoyed me since I had to find places for it all. But I did spend money on the things I knew I liked, and I knew that I was spending it because I wanted to, not because I was compensating for some blockage in my life.